[Anna]

I have never been able to find a good supply of satin panties. I don’t think they are as popular here as they are in the US and Canada, for some reason.

🙁

[Anna]

Perhaps it wasn’t a request Mike, perhaps it was a statement meant to induce some discussion?

[Anna]

I’m guessing you’re in Canada (no flies on me) so how about the Panty Mall?

[Anna]

Okay, firstly if we want to discuss this further we need to define fetish and domination because they are completely different.

Fetish is when someone has a sexual attraction to a particular item, a non-living item, as opposed to a man or a woman – such as panties, or socks, or rubber.

Domination is a behaviour, an activity, a set of rituals used by one person over another. The biggest mistake made by many Dommes is that this is just physical, ie caning, flogging or dressing up. A talented Domme can dominate a man in her jeans, with just a whisper that binds the very heart  of his psyche.

A Dominatrix can use a sub’s fetish against him as part of her domination of him, for example panties or rubber masks.

Real-time Dommes don’t have fetishes Anni, not in the true sense of the word, their subs do.

There are lots of different types of Domme – real time, prostitutes, traditional, online, financial, bratty princess, the list is endless but all must realise that yes, it has to be fun – if you aren’t enjoying yourself your subs will leave, but just like a panty business it must also be run professionally so there has to be some seriousness underlying  the fun.

Just like with the panty business newbies there are newbie-Dommes who don’t do enough research, don’t take it seriously or professionally and think it’s easy money for very little work. These newbies stand out a mile because as FF4U says they think it is all about being rude, or shouting, or using caps if online – YOU MISERABLE LITTLE WORM, YOU DISGUST ME!!

You don’t need to fit any mould Anni, you can be the type of Domme that you want to be, but you do need to understand a lot more than what you appear to understand at the moment.

The bratty princess type young Domme is very popular at the moment but do you want to be one of many? Or the best? As a Dominatrix myself I know that it can take at least a year to research all the different aspects of Domming, and more importantly work out your own style.

[Anna]

It isn’t that he is dense, it’s that he obviously has some firm ideas about what a domme should be and he was telling you his opinion. The fact is Anni, there are loads of girls who think they can Domme, hence the term ‘instadomme’, it’s only when you get into it that you realise that it really isn’t easy at all. I don’t touch online domming or financial domination because it is full of scammers and con merchants on both sides of the pretend coin, although it is a lot bigger in the US than anywhere else.  You are going to get hell of a lot more grief and you are going to be tested and wound up constantly by online ‘subs’. I guarantee it.

Some folk in the scene really believe that a domme is a domme 24/7 and so they would see panty girls as too obliging, too ready to bend over backwards to accommodate a customer…you can see his point…on one hand you’re sweet and cute and girly, on the other hand you are supposed to be grand, aloof and untouchable. Two very opposite ends of the spectrum. Some can understand that but you can’t expect everybody to see it the way you see it.

I keep my two personas very separate because of this anomaly. Having an image is 50% what you are and 50% what everyone else thinks you are. Why would a sub submit to you and obey your commands if he knows he can have you the other way for the price of some panties? Whichever way you look at it, these guys are your customers. Listen to what they say, take it onboard with a ton of salt but don’t let it get to you.

Having opposing personas can also indicate that you are a jack of all trades rather than a Mistress of one. If you intend to try both roles you have to be very, very skillful or be lucky enough to get some subs who don’t mind that you are also a panty girl because they do understand you can be both.

The most important thing to remember is that Dommes don’t need to justify anything.  :cheer:

[Anna]

lmao

brilliant, now go and do the dishes!

[Anna]

You could always put something on your site to say if you don’t reply within 2 or 3 days (whatever) that they can assume you never got the order or were unable to reply. I often get mistyped email addresses on orders too. Just one of those things.

[Anna]

OMG They have been reading this site! remember last year when we were discussing this very thing?  :cheer:

[Anna]

Oh YUM a femsub  jo I like you already  :cheer: Do you like FemDoms?  :coolsmiley:

Thank you for linking to my info page properly, I appreciated that 🙂

and WELCOME!

:kiss:

[Anna]

Hmm….

From your site:

If you still aren’t sure who will be wearing your item I will hold a sheet of paper with your
name on it while wearing the item or whatever you request. Just make sure to let me
know what you want me to do to prove its me. (Ask girls from other websites to do that).

[color=purple]What are you trying to say? That girls from other websites won’t do that…or can’t do that?  :huh:

Which websites? Our websites?  🙁

[Anna]

Cinders, you’re right. Clark did add that PS at a later date so I missed it too. So Viking that is very unfair of you to have a go at the mods and Molly. There is a function to report posts, please feel free to use it.

[Anna]

Really good idea Vicky!

[Anna]

Awww shucks  :rolleyes:

I could never do what I do if I didn’t have the support of you guys you know.

I am seriously considering a law degree actually so if ever you need a solicitor…..

Clark – Brilliant post and yes, exactly what I was thinking too  – they really showed themselves up didn’t they.

[Anna]

[quote author=JuJuPanties link=topic=2697.msg17610#msg17610 date=1192206650]
I want know if you guys know of any good free adult chat rooms?

Yup, right here on Panty Hog. It’s advised to announce when you will be in there though so you’re not on your own.

[Anna]

Oh and…

Copying other sellers photos (not just text) and putting them on your site is called STEALING, especially if you are hotlinking

oh and…

‘I didn’t know, honest‘ is NOT any form of acceptable defence

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